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How to stop spending and build will power

30th March 2019 by shoestringjane@outlook.com 23 Comments

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Are you an emotional shopper? Or do you shop because you are bored? I have been guilty of both, although not recently I am happy to say.  It can be so hard to find the will power to stop spending sometimes.

It’s just too easy to spend money! We don’t even need to leave the comfort of our armchairs to have a splurge. You can be idly browsing the internet one minute and have a virtual shopping basket full of goods the next.  I am no shopaholic, but if I am not careful I can easily pop into town for one thing and come back with another four items that I didn’t realise I needed until I saw them.

So if you need to pay off debt or build your savings, how can you learn to resist temptation and just stop spending?

Avoid temptation

This is my number one way to stop spending. If I don’t hit the shops or look online then I don’t really spend anything. I know that I don’t need a lot of stuff and I don’t shop as a leisure activity. This includes charity shops! These are a weakness for me, even if they are full of bargains that I don’t need!

Stop spending on the small stuff

Even if you resist actually going shopping, it is easy to forget small purchases such as a coffee on the way to work, a magazine at lunch time, or a couple of glasses of wine with colleagues at the end of the day. If you find money being leeched from your bank account because of a lot of inexpensive items, try keeping a spending diary for a month. Seeing in black and white how much money you waste on avoidable purchases  can help put you back on track.

Don’t shop with children

If you have kids around it is even harder. Not only do you have to resist your inner shopping demons, you need to stand firm against their constant pleas. If it is remotely feasible to leave them at home, even if you are just grocery shopping, then do! Even now that mine are adults, I still spend more if they are with me!

Set a budget and track your spending

Setting a budget was the action that finally gave me control of my spending. I know how much I have at the beginning of the month, how much my bills are going to be and the amount that will go into savings. What is left over has to last the month. There are loads of different apps around now to help you budget, but I prefer a basic spreadsheet.

Check your balance regularly too to check that you are on track.

Set clear goals

Having a goal to aim for can really focus your attention and help you to stop spending. Try to make your goals specific. Rather than saying ‘I want to pay off my debts’, say ‘I will pay off £100 towards my credit card every month’. My goals for the year were to put a fixed amount each month into my emergency savings fund and the same figure into a holiday/birthday fund. These goals are measurable and achievable. I feel good when I manage to achieve them!

Avoid the sales

Oooh, the sales are a dangerous time! It is so easy to tell yourself it is OK to make a purchase when an item is 50% off. This is why I often have a no spend January. Most of the sales are over by the time I dust off my wallet.

Hide your credit cards or cut them up

I have a single credit card for emergency use only. I don’t take it out with me unless I am going on holiday. It is hidden away in a drawer so that I am not tempted to grab it at home to make an online impulse purchase. I have heard people suggest freezing your credit card in a container full of water – genius! Dave Ramsey would say not to have a credit card at all (‘Cash is king’) and this is a good idea if you are a serious shopaholic. Cut it into a million pieces and throw it away. Which leads onto…

Use cash

Cash is harder to spend than credit or debit cards. You can feel the money in your hand and you can see it leaving you. It hurts more to hand over the paper stuff than flash your debit card over the pay machine. If you go out to make a purchase with £20 and no cards then £20 is all you are going to spend.

Have regular no spend periods

Have regular no spend days, weeks or even months. Once I have a rule that I am buying nothing except essentials for a set period I find it easy to stop spending. The rule is absolute, so no arguing with myself or anyone else. No, I can’t go out to dinner/the pub/the cinema, I am on a no spend month. Yes, new shoes would be nice, but actually I am on a no spend week so I will wear one of the 10 pairs already in the cupboard.

Unsubscribe from newsletters

I try not to get sucked in to subscribing to updates or newsletters when I make an online purchase. However, sometimes those clever companies make it easy to miss the little box you have to tick. Just unsubscribe when they come through, then you won’t be constantly tempted by special offers or discounts.

Cancel catalogues

If you still receive glossy catalogues through the post, cancel those too. Put any you have lying around in the recycling. They make everything look so beautiful and tempting!

Don’t buy glossy magazines

These are even worse than catalogues. They present the perfect (expensive) lifestyle. It’s easy to feel rubbish if your home doesn’t look as stunning as those in the carefully set up scenes, your garden isn’t full of expensive furniture or exotic plants or you haven’t got a wardrobe full of immaculate clothes like the stick thin models. Who do you know you actually lives like that? Well, there may be a couple, but most of us cope with furniture scratched by the cats and wander round in our trackie bottoms and no bra as often as we can get away with it. (Please don’t tell me that is just me!)

Get organised

If you want to keep your spending to a minimum get organised. Keep a running shopping list and plan your meals. You are much less likely to buy food you won’t use or give in to a take away if you know what is for dinner each night.

When you are out and about takes refreshments. I don’t even go into town without a water bottle and often even a flask of coffee. I keep a stash of cereal bars to take out as well. Occasionally I love a coffee out, but this can become an expensive habit if you aren’t careful.

I deserve it

I remember when I first had a Saturday job, aged 16. One of my colleagues often said (as she spent most of her pay packet before she had even left the shop), ‘A working gal needs to treat herself’. For a while I followed her example, but pretty soon realised I was just handing my employer back my hard earned wages!

It’s really easy to fall into the trap of treating yourself because you have been working hard, or feeling poorly, or are a bit down… Just remember what your goals are and how much better you will feel when you make it to the end of the month with no overdraft.

Shop from home to stop spending

When I feel tempted to buy new clothes because I ‘have nothing to wear’, I go through everything I already own.  A wardrobe declutter will always reveal some gems I forgot I had. The same with books, CDs (if you are old fashioned, like me!), kitchen gadgets, tools, etc. This will take your mind of the temptation to buy something new and you might find some unwanted items worth selling. Which brings me to…

Sell instead of buy

As another distraction technique for the shopaholic, how about going through the stuff you already have and making some money? There aren’t many folk in the Western world who don’t possess lots of ‘stuff’. Items that were purchased on impulse and not used, or bought for a particular occasion and used just the once. I am a big fan of decluttering as a kind of therapy. It makes me feel in control and living a (slightly) more minimalistic lifestyle feels less stressful.

If you can sell some of the things you declutter and put the money towards your savings goals or paying debt, you get a double benefit. Time for a spring clean, maybe?

I’ve blown the budget already

Once you have given into temptation, it suddenly becomes so much easier to spend more money. It’s so weird as you would think the opposite would be the case. I find once I have loosened the purse strings a bit I need to be careful not to go crazy with my spending. It is easy to think, ‘Oh well, I have blown the budget now, I might as well get this too’. Be aware if this is you and try to extract yourself from temptation as quickly as possible.

Build in treats

If you do need to stick to a tight budget, it is important to build in some treats. A sense of deprivation and resentment can soon set in if you don’t, no matter how determined you are. A monthly Chinese takeaway, an occasional trip to the cinema or whatever you fancy will be guilt free and more enjoyable when you know you can afford it.

Beg, borrow, share

As many of your family and friends will have useful items such as steam cleaners, hedge trimmers and various power tools that don’t get used frequently, ask to borrow rather than buying new. Offer use of whatever gizmo you already own in exchange.

Join Freecycle or Freegle and see what is being given away for free. You can also post wanted ads for particular items. Just don’t be one of those annoying people who always takes without occasionally giving though!

Understand your triggers

Often your triggers for spending are obvious when you start to think about it. PMT, a tough day at work, loneliness, boredom…. Try to identify yours so that you can develop a strategy to deal with it without spending money. If you are bored or lonely, how about volunteering? If your spending patterns are filling some kind of void in your life, maybe it is possible to find another way to fill it.

The money saver’s chant

Can I afford this? Do I really need this, do I really want it, will I still need it tomorrow? The more you ask yourself these questions before each purchase, the more likely they are to become a habit.

What do you do to stop spending?

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Comments

  1. Lucy says

    10th June 2018 at 07:50

    Some great tips – I find the food planning bit best of all – shop with a list and stick to it!!!

    I find apps like Instagram really difficult – with lifestyle bloggers always selling things these days – I’ve unfollowed loads of people like this because it’s easy to just click on a link and get tempted! Now I follow people I actually know and money saving bloggers instead!

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  2. Tree says

    10th June 2018 at 09:11

    I am trying so hard to keep a list of things when we run out of them. I need a proper place for it. Little bits of paper all over the house with two items on each is not working as well as you might think! Now I’ve seen it in black and white it might (hopefully) be the trigger I need!
    Tx

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    • Margaret Powling says

      10th June 2018 at 20:29

      Try a magnetic shopping list attached to the side of the fridge – this is what I do. Then just before I go to the supermarket, I transfer the list, which is simply jotted down as I run out of things, to a typed list which I keep in my computer, and that is typed in the order of how we go around the supermarket, so each week I either add or remove items to that basic list, then print it to take with me.
      This sounds like a lot of work but it really isn’t, and you then have a neat, printed list in the correct aisle and shelf order (I think when we shop regularly at our favourite supermarkets we tend to know their layout). It does save time when you are in the supermarket, too, and you are less likely to be distracted by tempting things not on the list. You can also go around speedily, and the shorter the length of time in the supermarket, the less likely to be tempted.

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      • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

        11th June 2018 at 06:14

        Wow, Margaret! You are super organised!

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        • Margaret Powling says

          11th June 2018 at 12:12

          Years of practice, dear girl, years of practice, ha ha! I know my route through the supermarket almost blindfold. I don’t examine all the shelves because that’s the ‘route’ to temptation.
          But I’ve always been a fairly organized person and it certainly makes life easier. When husband wants the Sellotape I know where it is; when elder son runs out of lemons for pancakes, I have some in the fridge; when younger son needs a stamp, I have one. I’m not boasting, just stating facts. Being organized is something else that could be taught in schools along with money management.
          Margaret P

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  3. Sam says

    10th June 2018 at 11:38

    I’m not a shopper like any you describe but occasionally I’m the indulgent mom. My petite but busy daughter has a hard time finding clothes that fit well. When she does, I tend to splurge. Fortunately she’s satisfied with just a few things in latest looks.

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    • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

      11th June 2018 at 06:16

      Makes sense to buy things when you see them if they’re hard to get hold of. Maybe she could get away with kids stuff? My also petite daughter saves loads buying kids trainers rather than adults

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  4. ratnamurti says

    11th June 2018 at 00:10

    I have just bought a small second hand car and an Apple Notebook. With cash. I simply went without, stopped catching up at cafes, and ate whatever I had, wore whatever I had, didn’t go anywhere that would cost money. Saved any extra money that I earned. Very easy. I’m so glad that I did it.

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    • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

      11th June 2018 at 06:14

      So sensible! Most people would chuck it on their card or take out a high interest car loan

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      • ratnamurti says

        14th June 2018 at 07:24

        I have only just gotten my first card – it’s a debit card, so it’s a glorified eftpos card & I’ll use it for internet only. I always figured if I couldn’t afford to save, then I couldn’t afford to pay back a loan……

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        • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

          14th June 2018 at 11:58

          So true, Ratnamurti

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  5. Faith @MuchMoreWithLess says

    11th June 2018 at 07:17

    Great practical tips on stopping spending. We are surrounded by so many pressures to buy, and money is so tied up with our emotions, it can be tough to stop. GDPR has been a blessing in disguise for me, as it’s helped me unsubscribe from lots of marketing newsletters!
    Thanks so much for joining #MondayMoney!

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  6. Tuppenny says

    11th June 2018 at 12:15

    I recently went back to basics and sweated the small stuff in May as my spending had slowly crept up to above and beyond what I consider acceptable. Online spending is not a real problem for me, it’s supermarket shopping and bargains that I may find there. Limiting myself to one shop only really made a difference. Knowing I was doing this for a month made me really focus on every penny I spent and I spent much less than I did the previous month.

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  7. Eloise (thisissixty.blog) says

    12th June 2018 at 16:56

    I was a terrible spendthrift when I was working full time in a management job. Now I work only 16 hours and in a lower position (my choice as work/life balance now comes into play) I am a better saver than I was then!

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  8. Anastasiya says

    13th June 2018 at 06:06

    My favourite question for the Money Saver’s Chant is “Will I use it?” It has saved me LOTS of money 🙂

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  9. Margaret Powling says

    13th June 2018 at 12:07

    Just a little PS, Jane: The sad fact is that we all need to spend in order for our economy to grow; without people spending, the economy stagnates, businesses fail, and people lose their jobs. I’m not advocating we go barmy and spend all our earnings, but that we spend wisely. Which is what all those reading your lovely blog do anyway.
    Margaret P

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    • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

      13th June 2018 at 17:22

      Of course we need to spend sometimes and there’s nothing wrong with spending money you can afford. This is aimed at those who need to stop spending but can’t!

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  10. Emma Drew says

    15th June 2018 at 19:48

    Love the money savers chant! I completely agree with all of this. It is hard to stick to a budget but it’s so worth it. Thanks for linking up to #MondayMoney. Hope to see you next week.

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  11. Lynn James says

    17th June 2018 at 07:25

    Great post Jane. I have found myself slipping into the glossy mag route, normally though because a friend is in it, or Im in it. But they are so pretty!!! And they do make me want to buy stuff!!

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  12. Julia says

    31st March 2019 at 13:12

    The only thing I would disagree with is about not having a credit card. Used wisely they are useful tools for building a good credit score, which is very important when it comes to renting a house or wanting a good rate on important loans, plus they have the added bonus of protecting your purchase if things go wrong, especially when buying online.

    The problem with cash is if you lose it that’s it – gone!! Just yesterday we were walking down a street and my friend suddenly stopped and picked up a folded £20 note lying on the pavement!! It may have been more as it was folded so I only saw that it was purple! Lucky for her, but unlucky for someone else.

    I use a credit card for all my purchases as it is a rewards card and I have now earned nearly £600 from it! The spending limit means I still have to be careful as the limit really only covers my regular monthly purchases so it pretty much gets maxed out each month anyway.

    BUT, in order not to get a nasty surprise each month I save the receipts from each purchase and every week transfer the amount I have spent from my current account to a savings account dedicated to paying it off IN FULL!!!
    So I still see my every day account going down as it would if I used my debit card or took out the cash, but have the protection of a credit card, and still have the money put aside to pay it off each month.

    It works for me anyway! 🙂

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    • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

      31st March 2019 at 13:17

      That’s because you are frugal and disciplined! If you were a big spender it might be another story…

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  13. Philip says

    31st March 2019 at 22:41

    Interesting you mention Dave Ramsey, I have watched a lot of his videos online and find his financial ideas really interesting. He categorises people into three categories, spenders, which this is aimed at, savers and givers, I would definitely fall into the saver category and probably need to learn to spend and give a little more as sometimes I can be too frugal, it’s a balance I guess…

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    • shoestringjane@outlook.com says

      1st April 2019 at 14:00

      Me too!

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