Unfortunately, life will throw many curveballs at us through our time on this earth. For most of us, that is what living frugally is all about. We are much more prepared to deal with the tumultuous issues of life when we have a little something extra in the bank to deal with that. However, for the most part, money cannot solve our emotional troubles, despite it perhaps having the ability to suppress us feeling them for a time.
However, with certain emotions, especially grief, it can be very hard to achieve this. Grief is not something we can mask. It is something we can potentially pause if we try our hardest, but you can bet it will only resume all the stronger for the effort. Grieving in the most health-conducive manner possible can seem like an oxymoron, but actually, it is very possible to achieve.
Of course, it’s important not to mistake this with the idea of grief-as-decision. You cannot dictate how you experience it. But you can help it express itself in the most healthy manner. Let us see how that might work.
Don’t Rush It
Don’t rush the grieving process. It’s not a nice feeling and it can actually leave you feeling quite depressed at times, but that is the natural process that you will have to go through. What is the alternative? Feeling completely serene and happy after someone you love has passed? Surely that would make you even more worried, and feeling quite defective? Negative feelings are hard to deal with, especially in this context, but fortunately they are normal, and what make you human. The further you defer this processing period, the worse you will feel. Do not rush the process.
Don’t Hide From It
Do not hide from the process either. Some feel as though simply not attending the funeral will help, not weighing in on the best and most beautiful gravestones you can select to commemorate your loved one and their resting place. Hiding achieves nothing, because you know what has happened, and will have to face the reality of that at some point. It’s fine to take your time, and it’s fine to perhaps do things right for you of course. But be sure that you’re not simply trying to escape the situation, because it will always catch up with you. Best to grieve with others around you at this point of time.
Don’t Let It Absorb You
Don’t let the grief absorb you. Do not simply spend time alone, or speak to your friends less, or sleep in all day eating ice cream. Speak to the people around you. Try to do something positive, even if it’s simply going for a walk with your dog. The moment you let grief get the better of you, the more difficult you will find processing it. It’s a careful balancing act, but you’ll know which way you feel at the time.
With this advice, you’re certain to properly grieve in the healthiest manner possible.
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