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We all suffer from stress from time to time. For most of us life is very busy. At other times a particular circumstance or life event causes a lot of tension and anxiety. None of us is immune to it, so what are the best ways to relieve stress?
As a trained yoga teacher and confirmed stress head, this is a subject I have given a lot of thought to. If I allow tension to build up I suffer sleeplessness, headaches, a lack of concentration and I feel generally anxious and miserable. So, no different to anyone else then!
Spotting the signs
In my experience, recognising the early signs that you are suffering from stress is important. When I feel I am running around like a lunatic just to stay in the same place, reaching for one too many glasses of wine at the end of a busy day and comfort eating bags of crisps I know it is time to consciously relax.
Stress can create real physical symptoms that can be quite distressing. For example, you can experience chest pain, insomnia, palpitations, stomach aches and indigestion, dizziness and forgetfulness.
Key techniques to relieve stress
Here are some key techniques I use to relieve stress that really work.
Just breathe
A sign of anxiety can be shallow, rapid breathing. For some people, this can work itself into a full blown panic attack.
A simple way to calm your mind and your body is to take some slow, deep breaths. If you can sit somewhere quiet and close your eyes it helps, but you can practice this technique sitting on a noisy bus if you have to. Count your breath in as one, your breath out as two, the next breath in as three, all the way up to ten. Then repeat at least three or four times. You can follow the breath in this way for several minutes as a form of meditation.
Meditate

Talking of which, a regular meditation practice isn’t as hard as it sounds. When you are stressed, it can feel really hard to stop your mind whizzing. If you are starting out, I recommend using an app – I have a post on this here. Meditation can reduce agitation and increase your concentration levels too. You can find a full list of the benefits of meditation here.
Move to relieve stress
The benefits of exercise, whatever you choose to do, aren’t exaggerated. Movement and exercise is fantastic for stress relief. When you exercise, you release endorphins into your system. These relieve pain, create a sense of calm and lift your mood. Endorphins aren’t known as feel good hormones for nothing.
Exercise also relieves muscular tension and eases joint pain. I like a nice, brisk walk or a good yoga session. Mr S enjoys a cycle. I am not a runner, but I am told the endorphins released by a run create a natural high – maybe I should take it up!
Get outdoors
Fresh air and daylight (especially in the winter months) are really beneficial to your mental health. A walk round the block or, even better, in the woods or by the coast is a brilliant stress buster. Gardening or getting out into nature can massively relieve stress and lift your spirits.

When I was office bound during the week, I made a point of parking 10 minutes away from the office and having a brisk walk in. I can’t tell you how much better I felt for doing this. It can feel like an effort to walk somewhere rather than driving, but you will reap the benefits of being outdoors.
I have a friend who keeps horses. Her primary reason for taking on the expense and commitment of a horse is the opportunities they provide to get outside whatever the weather, which she says is massively beneficial for her mental health. She lavishes her time and money on them, including getting bespoke stables built by Vale Stables.
Now that we have a dog we have to walk twice a day, I finally understand why this is so important to her.
Write a list
The act of writing down all the things you have to do, or even the things that are bothering you, can make you feel more organised and in control. I totally believe in the power of writing a list, and usually have several on the go!
Practice positive thinking
We all know somebody who appears to be a ‘glass half empty’ person. They tend to see obstacles in every situation rather than opportunities. But it is possible to change the way you think and cultivate a more positive way of thinking that will help you to cope with the situations that might bring you stress.
I have been reading a lot about Wayne Dyer recently, and listening to him on You Tube. He said, ‘If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.’ He suggested saying and writing positive affirmations such as:
I know I am not alone.
I have faith that all is for good.
I give no energy to the negative because I know all is in divine order.
Whatever makes you stressed and unhappy, write a positive affirmation and try saying it every night before you sleep. Write it on a post it and stick it on the fridge or the mirror!

Connect
If you are feeling stressed or anxious, a problem shared is a problem halved, as the old saying goes. Arrange to meet up with friends, suggest a drink with colleagues, give a family member a phone call. Even if you don’t talk about how you feel, connecting with others can distract you from your own issues.
Laugh
Laughter really is the best medicine. In fact there is some research showing that laughter boosts the immune system as well as reducing stress. But you might not feel like laughing if you are suffering from stress. Do as Norman Cousins did and laugh yourself well with a funny book, TV programme or film.
If you have ever had a good belly laugh or laughed so much tears ran down your cheeks, you will know how much tension it can release!
What are your most effective ways to relieve stress?


Julia says
DH retiring almost a year ago has been incredibly stressful for me, being constantly “there” 24/7, so any alone time I find is treasured and relaxing. Particularly pottering around in the garden, even if it’s just hanging out the washing! Less so going to the supermarket, but it all helps. I’ve even taken to walking the 2 miles rather than getting the bus just to prolong the amount of time I’m out of the house!
While I don’t enjoy doing it, I do find a tidy house helps reduce my stress levels so it doesn’t help that Mr Retired and Miss Teenage Daughter are both very untidy people! At least I can pack one of them off to university next week!! I can’t wait to begin the Teenage Bedroom Blitz! 😀
shoestringjane@outlook.com says
Julia, you need a job . How about some volunteering? Or get Mr Retired to do some?
Margaret Powling says
Julia, if you can bear the muddle for a time, don’t clear up after them. Wait until they don’t have clean clothes to wear and then tell them where the washing machine is. You all live in your home, they aren’t simply guests with you as their servant, so they need to shape up. They must learn to do their share. If your daughter is old enough to go to uni, she is also old enough to blitz her own bedroom. I would’ve been totally ashamed of myself at 17 (I was engaged to be married at 18, I considered myself an adult, and adults don’t behave like children) if my mother had had to clean my bedroom. I took over the role of my own housekeeper when I was very young – about 10 or 11 – as I wanted my room to look clean and tidy and organized the way I wanted it organized. Indeed, I’d have been quite miffed if my mother had decided to go through my things, deciding what to keep and what to throw away. No, they need to step up to the mark, both of them, and do their fair share. Crack that whip, girl!
Margaret P
Petra / Be Healthy Now says
Lovely article, really enjoyed reading it. My favourite way of relieving stress is by going for a walk and meditating. The nature really calms me down and relaxes me. I haven’t heard of Dr Wayne Dyer before but I will bookmark his videos so I can watch them later.
Ratnamurti says
Great hints, Jane, for stress reduction. I also love to cuddle and play with my daughters wee dog – instant love and laughter.
shoestringjane@outlook.com says
Oh yes! Same with my cats
Margaret Powling says
I think we first have to recognise the things which cause us stress and deal with those first. I have to say that I now seldom feel stressed, but if I do feel stressed, then a warm shower, a hot drink, and an early night and a hot water bottle )if winter) is a good stress reliever.
Margaret P
Grainne says
Loved reading this! My personal favourite is just to breathe so I liked that this was top of your list, along with meditation. I also keep a journal and I’ve seen a big improvement in how calm I feel since I started. Great list, thank you for posting 🙂
Elaine says
That was a great post – many thanks.
Chrissie says
This has come at the right time for me, thank you. My son with epilepsy has to have another op and it means a trip to Bristol from our home in Cornwall, with covid getting worse this is daunting, he is still having seizures despite having brain surgery last year each of the last ones has resulted in a nasty head injury and one a broken collar bone, it is such a worry. I too have a retired husband at home, it drives me round the bend so we have bought a static caravan on a site near to us so that he can go off for a few days and dangle his rod in the lake, bliss for us both as it works both ways, it is hard for a man who has worked for 45 years to be suddenly at home with her indoors. On top of this I have just found out I have skin cancer so I am a bit miffed ! Hey ho, Christmas is coming and we will make the most of what we can and cannot do, at least we are not in a war torn country or in a boat risking our lives to find a better life, or living in a country where we can’t feed ourselves or our children or can’t treat our ailments because we don’t have the money to pay. We have fresh water,sewerage system, food, national health, sadly not all of us now in this country have jobs and can only see a dismal future so all in all I shouldn’t moan, I shall sit and breathe, listen to some music, cuddle the dogs, then kick my husband , sorted 🙂
shoestringjane@outlook.com says
Chrissie, I am so sorry to hear all this. It must be so hard for you all. I hope your son’s op goes ok and that your condition is treatable. It’s amazing that you are keeping such a positive outlook. Your stress relief tips sound perfect, especially the last one
Chrissie says
Thank you x