Why am I frugal?

Beautiful Wales

Beautiful Wales

A friend at work discovered my blog by accident the other day. She is another frugalista because she is naturally that way inclined and also because she is saving towards her wedding. She wondered why I hadn’t told her about it and the truth is I don’t really advertise it. I have had too many people make assumptions in the past that being frugal means being a skinflint or ‘tight’.

It isn’t about that for me. If I had lots of money and could afford to be generous I certainly would be. My reality, like many of you reading this, is that I don’t have lots of money so I have to budget and be careful with what I have. It means sometimes having to say no – I don’t really need that night out, item of clothing, haircut, holiday and I can’t afford it. I need to attend to the essentials first and then see if there is any left over. However this does not mean that I don’t get new clothes. I buy lovely things that I like but they might come from eBay, a boot sale or a charity shop, or if I am really lucky they might be reduced in a sale.

It also doesn’t mean I can’t have nice days out, get a good bottle of wine or socialise with friends, I just cut costs by taking picnics, cooking and sharing food rather than going to fancy restaurants, and food shopping at the discount stores. I can have a holiday too, maybe not in a fancy hotel but in a cheap caravan in a beautiful location. Last summer we did just that in Wales and it was lovely.

I save money wherever I can and earn extra at every opportunity so that I can have a few little luxuries every now and again.

So, perhaps I shouldn’t be embarrassed and worried how others will judge me. I should be proud of my efforts 🙂

0 thoughts on “Why am I frugal?

  1. Nicola

    I think you should be very proud, you give a wonderful inspiring outlook on life through your blog. Keep up the great blog!

  2. Karen

    Yes I too think you should be proud. I am frugal due to a change in our financial situation yet find it a much more rewarding life & we are happier! Nothing to be ashamed of here, I love to use it all up & stretch every penny, its addictive (& fun).

    1. ChickenladyJane Post author

      You’re right, Karen – it has strangely become a hobby. I don’t think I could go back to just thoughtlessly spending money now, even if my finances improved dramatically.

  3. Julie

    Good morning! Just wanted to say i love your blog and read it every day! I, like you, am on my own after my lovely husband left me with four children to rear just over 20 years ago. I have had to count my pennies for so long now it has just become second nature to me. Although some days it can be extremely hard, but we just get on with it – don’t we!! however I only have the youngest at home now so things are getting easier ! I made the very brave decision to leave the Civil Service on the 31st March after 30 years service taking Voluntary Redundancy – so I’ll have to be even more frugal than ever now haha! I just wanted to say your blog is very honest! Being frugal can you get you down some days but it does become easier as the children get older and leave the nest.

    But to me you sound a brilliant mum and you’re doing a grand job – keep up the good work! xx

    1. ChickenladyJane Post author

      Thanks Julie – good luck with your ‘retirement’. I bet you find you have more time to be creative about saving money though. Have you discovered ? A very inventive and frugal lady who does amazing things with very little money.

      1. Julie

        Well i will have to look for another job ….but i thought it was time for me to take a risk in my life and do something i would like to do! No, who is this amazing woman you are talking about?

    1. ChickenladyJane Post author

      Thanks Pru – that is something I am working on and they definitely show some promising signs of being sensible with their money. We could all do better though!

  4. AuntLeesie

    As with Nicola and the Baroness Prudent Spending, I appreciate your “real life” blog. In 2005, I began frugal living out of necessity. It was (for us) the beginning of recession in America. After paying off debts, I decided to adopt frugality as a way of life for 2 reasons: first, I never wanted to lay awake nights worried about finances again, and secondly, I like the feeling of having more control over how, where, when and why I spend money. We wasted a lot in earlier years. Too many dinners out that weren’t special because they happened so often. Too much stuff accumulated that wasn’t really needed. Too much trying to keep up with what society views as success. But it’s not always easy. Sometimes I still feel as if I fall short. So I read here and feel better. You remind me it’s okay to want a simpler life.

    1. ChickenladyJane Post author

      I still lie awake on occasion….but things are on the up as it looks as if I will get a long term student which means a regular extra income and will make a massive difference to us. I will still have to watch every penny, but it will take some of the pressure off. Well done for paying off all your debts. It must feel brilliant