I have always felt it is energising and uplifting to be around positive people. If you are feeling low or uninspired seeing someone making the best of things, not allowing set backs to leave them defeated, and accepting situations they don’t like but can’t change rather than constantly complaining about them does inspire similar positivity in those around them.
I try to be generally positive but sometimes it fails me and I find myself bitching and moaning about my situation, usually work connected. If it makes me feel better to do this that feeling doesn’t last, so I need to take some deep breaths, maybe have a walk and get myself into a more positive frame of mind. I think of myself as a cup-half-full person for sure, so I can usually snap out of it quite quickly.
The other side of the coin is that sometimes work forces you into a situation where you have to spend a lot of time with very negative people. In your personal life you can choose to avoid the moaners and the pessimists. So, how to deal with a work arrangement where that isn’t possible?
I work quite closely with someone who appears to find offence in almost anything anybody says that doesn’t entirely agree with her view of the world. She will tell a story and give it such a negative slant it is like a different version of everyone else’s reality, a parallel version of the universe in which everybody is out to make her life difficult. She has on numerous occasions accused a colleague or customer of saying or doing things that simply aren’t true. She isn’t lying exactly; it is as if she has twisted events in her mind to the point where she believes her version even when people around her are telling her otherwise.
I have learned I can’t change her, so I avoid her as much as I can and try to avoid getting dragged into the pettiness. Nevertheless, it is wearing a bit thin!
I feel like turning into my mum and saying ‘if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all!’
How would you deal with someone like this? How do you shield yourself from life’s moaners and avoid turning into one yourself?