Hey Big Spender! Get a Life …

I watched a programme on TV last night called ‘ Hey Big Spenders -Shopaholics Exposed’. Though it made me rage I endured most of it. I know they find the craziest people for
these things to make them more interesting, but this also frequently means the people featured are the most irritating!

The winner of the ‘throw the remote at the TV’ award was definitely American princess Andrea. She had a series of sugar daddies who gave her their credit cards and the freedom to shop for lots of tight pink clothes for herself and her little fluffy dog. She once had to work as a TV extra for 14 hours ‘for barely anything’ and she didn’t intend to do it again. She lived for shopping. If she couldn’t do that she said she wouldn’t know what to do.

The cameras showed her on an average day: a 7 hour shopping spree where she spent 1100 dollars on what appeared to be just underwear and a couple of tops. Whatever gaping hole she hoped to fill in her life, it didn’t have the desired effect . Her initial pleasure gave way to disappointment as she realised how little the money had got her, or perhaps that what she had got wasn’t what she really needed in her life. With wobbling chin, she said the shops hadn’t had the right things in stock and she would have to go back another day.

Chloe-Jasmine may have been an actual shopaholic but as I spotted her on the X Factor as well the other night I think she is more a ‘please let me be famous, I really don’t care what for’ type of girl. Her best quote: ‘You can eat or you can look fabulous… It’s quite a hard decision to make’. No it’s not, Chloe-Jasmine! Only somebody who has never gone without a meal would say such a stupid and vacuous thing.

The only serious person on this programme was Helen, who became a shopaholic after she lost her job as a city trader. She said, ‘Buying things made me feel as if I was more worthy’. It gave her a temporary boost of self esteem which would inevitably evaporate when she got home and tried to justify her expensive and unnecessary purchases to her husband. Her addiction eventually cost her marriage which forced her to confront her sad reality and get help.

She discovered the hard way that you, ‘Don’t need stuff to fill
this massive void’. What you need is a sense of purpose, good relationships, some fun and enough money to get by. I would rather be a tightwad than a shopaholic!!

Big Spenders was on Channel 5 at 10pm, Thursday 16th October 2014.

4 thoughts on “Hey Big Spender! Get a Life …

  1. As police sometimes say here in the US, “step away from the vehicle.” Sweet lady, there are many sad, crazy people in the world, and it’s better to have limited contact with them. To be fair, I torture my adult children with comments about the state of humanity, and my lovely daughter says, “Mom, don’t engage.” You are trying to live in the way that sustains all creatures, so give yourself a hug. Kate in Oregon

  2. I avoid programmes like these like the plague! Mainly because they have no relevance to my lifestyle so hold little interest for me, but also because I abhor the sensationalism that seems to have become the norm this century. Vacuous programming showing vacuous lifestyles. It’s basically the Daily Mail on TV!!

  3. I agree. And it’s possibly a vehicle for wannabe actors…I think it’s about as likely as the actors in the advertisements that these are genuine people in real situations.

  4. Shopaholics, or problem shoppers come in many forms. There are shoppers who are the sugar daddy princesses, but I am as befuddled by the money supplier as the princess. I don’t even want to imagine what that relationship is like. Like your program showed the odd shopper who says, I’ll buy pretty clothes and jewelry, look fabulous and then claim to have no money for real necessities”-stories about this abound. Then the sad stories about shopping to fill voids in self worth-your last case. I have struggled with the impulse buys on “deals and bargains” things that are on clearance, or on a great sale, but I really have no immediate need for them. I cleaned out my laundry room and found all kinds of things that I had picked up on clearance for presents, or just in case, and here they still were, sometimes years later. I imposed a rule that for everything new, not including consumables, I have to get rid of two things to purge. It has really helped me look at every purchase and use more restraint. I’m slowly tackling my clutterbug habit with this restraint as well. http://newframereference.blogspot.com/

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