Forget it! I am not being a domestic goddess this Christmas 

How are your Christmas preparations coming on?

I have got myself into a financial stew in the past, buying people presents I couldn’t afford on my credit card and feeling an underlying anxiety about the whole thing. Never again! I have scaled down my buying to small but thoughtful presents generally, and I have money saved to pay for them. I reuse all the decorations and I have had the same artificial tree for ten years. I am not throwing any extravagant parties, although I will be having a meal with my team at work. I will write a few cards for those I don’t see often and maybe for some of my work colleagues. I have a huge stash of these that I have purchased very cheaply over the years in the post Christmas sales so I may as well use them.

I am not stressing myself out this year making Christmas puddings, mince pies, brandy butter and cakes from scratch. I work full time and I am quite busy enough without forcing myself to be a domestic goddess as well. I have got a pudding and cake already from Aldi. I love baking but not when it becomes yet another thing on my already too long to do list. It is only me and Mr S for Christmas dinner anyway so no need for a fuss. I am thinking about buying ready made beef wellington from Iceland for a change. Anyone tried it?

We are all off to my sister’s to catch up with the family on Boxing Day so I will make something to take to share there. I don’t need a big Turkey as we won’t be around to eat up the leftovers. I have some time off so I am looking forward to having some family time. The student is leaving on 20th December so the house will be ours again – until the next one anyway!

Christmas is nice but it’s really only one day. I am hoping for some rest and relaxation and as little stress as possible. How about you?

15 thoughts on “Forget it! I am not being a domestic goddess this Christmas 

  1. Anna

    Oh I am so with you on this. Frankly if we could have fondue that would suit me fine. I have already bought a stuffed frozen capon to give it a try before Christmas Day. And you know I don’t think anyone else cares either do you? I think maybe we women put a lot of this stress on ourselves (particularly if you watch the adverts on TV). I have bought my kids several DVDs each – DVDs that I found so funny many years ago – the Gods Must Be Crazy, Weekend at Bernie’s etc., plus an “experience” for each couple. OH has books that I have heard are really good (he is an avid reader) plus a nice mug for his coffee. And you know, that will be enough, as far as I can see. After all, it’s the thought that counts. Cheers. Anna

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  2. Anna

    Oh I am so with you on this. Frankly if we could have fondue that would suit me fine. I have already bought a stuffed frozen capon to give it a try before Christmas Day. And you know I don’t think anyone else cares either do you? I think maybe we women put a lot of this stress on ourselves (particularly if you watch the adverts on TV). I have bought my kids several DVDs each – DVDs that I found so funny many years ago – the Gods Must Be Crazy, Weekend at Bernie’s etc., plus an “experience” for each couple. OH has books that I have heard are really good (he is an avid reader) plus a nice mug for his coffee. And you know, that will be enough, as far as I can see. After all, it’s the thought that counts. Cheers. Anna

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  3. Pauline

    I have been invited to my daughter’s this year and she doesn’t seem to want me to do anything. I am making a small meal for everyone on Christmas Eve and treating everyone to the new Star Wars movie in the afternoon. One gift for each person on my list (something we started doing last year and it’s really quite liberating as you really focus on getting something special). We’re hoping for snow as it would be fab to go sledging. So nice family time without breaking the bank and no unwelcome credit card bills in January. My student too leaves just before Christmas – so I have the house to myself again too.

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  4. Pauline

    I have been invited to my daughter’s this year and she doesn’t seem to want me to do anything. I am making a small meal for everyone on Christmas Eve and treating everyone to the new Star Wars movie in the afternoon. One gift for each person on my list (something we started doing last year and it’s really quite liberating as you really focus on getting something special). We’re hoping for snow as it would be fab to go sledging. So nice family time without breaking the bank and no unwelcome credit card bills in January. My student too leaves just before Christmas – so I have the house to myself again too.

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  5. auntleesie

    We live on the ocean in California and already have dinner reservations to coincide with the sunset on Christmas at a restaurant in a tiny town on the south end of Big Sur. Nearly all of my shopping is done. Gifts are practical this year, and we won’t have piles of them. We’ve scaled back and I’m sending Christmas cards with gift cards tucked into them for some family & friends, and just Christmas cards for others. Package shipping costs have gone w-a-y up in the U.S. … in previous years, I had spent as much on shipping as the gifts in the boxes. No more of that. Our goal is for a quiet holiday of just enjoying each other. The sunset meal will cost quite a bit (estimated $150), but that’s for the four of us. Hope you’re able to have a relaxing holiday!

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      1. auntleesie

        Last year, to my dismay, I discovered the leg of lamb I’d bought to roast had spoiled. We always like to take a drive along the coast Christmas Day, so my husband surprised us all by making last minute reservations at Ragged Point Inn. They had roast lamb on the menu, too! We all agreed it was the best Christmas ever… one worth repeating. My sons are in their 20s, so I think that makes a difference. Children wouldn’t enjoy it as much.

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  6. Amanda A

    Previous years I have made our Christmas pudding but in January, I spotted them in Aldi being sold off dirt cheap and after checking the dates (Jan 2016) I snapped it up so like you our pudding will be a Aldi one – I hope its nice 🙂
    Christmas will be a different this year as my Mum is about to move in a few weeks so I will be spending weeks decorating and cleaning her new place. If we can have her settled in for Christmas it will be great but with all the work that needs to be done, I am doubting it…..I can just imagine a very frazzled me by Christmas day still with gloss paint in my hair! 😉

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  7. Amanda A

    Previous years I have made our Christmas pudding but in January, I spotted them in Aldi being sold off dirt cheap and after checking the dates (Jan 2016) I snapped it up so like you our pudding will be a Aldi one – I hope its nice 🙂
    Christmas will be a different this year as my Mum is about to move in a few weeks so I will be spending weeks decorating and cleaning her new place. If we can have her settled in for Christmas it will be great but with all the work that needs to be done, I am doubting it…..I can just imagine a very frazzled me by Christmas day still with gloss paint in my hair! 😉

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  8. helenjgraham33

    I’m glad I’m not the only one, Jane. I don’t even work outside the home, but having ‘done’ Christmas nearly every year for the past 30-odd years I’m doing a cheats Xmas this year and buying most food rather than making it. My daughter and spouse are staying a couple of nights and I still have 2 adult sons at home (plus 2 cats and 2 newly aquired puppies) but apart from making sure all are fed and there’s a pressie to unwrap for each I’m going for low key and inexpensive this year. I’ve got money saved in the bank and in sealed tins and hoping that will cover it all. And my cards and wrapping paper were bought for pennies months ago in sales. As the kids get older and move away to start their own lives celebrations are more about getting together than spending a huge amount anyway. I hope you have a lovely time, love Helen x

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  9. Louise Houghton

    I can understand what you mean. This year will be the last year I think my youngest, 8 at the end of January, will believe in the big fella in red so we are still in full swing. I have to say we have not gone mad with presents for the last couple of years. We only buy for children in the family up to the age of 18, currently there is only one and one on the way plus our two. Hubs and I will spend a little more on each other this year as have not done for the last couple. It will be us four on Christmas Day, yeah, so won’t go crazy but we do have to have a good supply of mince pies as we all love them. I am a planner so will start making the things I do need at the weekend, but I love Christmas more than anybody else in our house I think so I make no apologies for ensuring we all have a good time, but keeping things to some kind of a budget. My niece is staying for four days over new year so that will be lovely, too.

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  10. Louise Houghton

    I can understand what you mean. This year will be the last year I think my youngest, 8 at the end of January, will believe in the big fella in red so we are still in full swing. I have to say we have not gone mad with presents for the last couple of years. We only buy for children in the family up to the age of 18, currently there is only one and one on the way plus our two. Hubs and I will spend a little more on each other this year as have not done for the last couple. It will be us four on Christmas Day, yeah, so won’t go crazy but we do have to have a good supply of mince pies as we all love them. I am a planner so will start making the things I do need at the weekend, but I love Christmas more than anybody else in our house I think so I make no apologies for ensuring we all have a good time, but keeping things to some kind of a budget. My niece is staying for four days over new year so that will be lovely, too.

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  11. Lizzie

    Me neither. I do love traditional Christmas dinner but not when I have to cook it and then there’s all the washing up to be done, which spoils the meal for me, even though my husband does it. If I had my way (I don’t think my husband would ever agree!) I would have a very simple Christmas meal – a ploughman’s basically (I love good bread, and cheese, and chutney), plus Christmas pud, bought. Far less washing up (we don’t have a dishwasher), and I could enjoy the pud properly cos I wouldn’t feel so full after the first course! We have 4 children so there were 6 of us here once. This year there could possibly be 7 adults/7 adults plus tiny baby/5 adults (it all depends on pregnant daughter, due on 18th!). Who knows, dinner might be interrupted by a birth! I am determined that one day I will say what I think. It’s ridiculous, but we do put all this pressure on ourselves, and unless we have the guts to speak out it will carry on that way.

    At least my husband and I have vastly reduced the number of presents we buy, buying now only for our children. I (husband sometimes hand delivers cards to his family) don’t send any Christmas cards either.

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  12. Lizzie

    Me neither. I do love traditional Christmas dinner but not when I have to cook it and then there’s all the washing up to be done, which spoils the meal for me, even though my husband does it. If I had my way (I don’t think my husband would ever agree!) I would have a very simple Christmas meal – a ploughman’s basically (I love good bread, and cheese, and chutney), plus Christmas pud, bought. Far less washing up (we don’t have a dishwasher), and I could enjoy the pud properly cos I wouldn’t feel so full after the first course! We have 4 children so there were 6 of us here once. This year there could possibly be 7 adults/7 adults plus tiny baby/5 adults (it all depends on pregnant daughter, due on 18th!). Who knows, dinner might be interrupted by a birth! I am determined that one day I will say what I think. It’s ridiculous, but we do put all this pressure on ourselves, and unless we have the guts to speak out it will carry on that way.

    At least my husband and I have vastly reduced the number of presents we buy, buying now only for our children. I (husband sometimes hand delivers cards to his family) don’t send any Christmas cards either.

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